so a year seemed like a good place to start.
and while this is an important milestone, i don't think it is going to change things too much. after all, we decided on forever and this has only been a small drop in that. but there is something sweet about the beginning of any journey. wouldn't you agree?
even if it doesn't prove to the be
the most significant,
the most eventful,
or the hardest year,
it will always be the year that we became one.
it sounds cliche. but it's true. this transition from two to one--only happens once. it can be awkward, fun, difficult, hilarious, frustrating, blissful, complicated, and comforting all at the same time. that's just the first year of marriage.
we feel settled now. confident in this baby marriage that God has established.
and while i've come up with comments to share each month (1, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 10, 11) the one thing that keeps coming back to my mind--the thing that i've really learned most--is this:
let grace be your default. give each other the freedom to be human, mess up, be moody or tired occasionally, or just have an off day. because don't we all have those moments? days? weeks? where as soon as we've done or said something--we wish we hadn't. and we know it's just because we're tired/hormonal/frustrated/etc. and we hope that whoever we've done it to will just shrug it off and hug us. instead of give us the "you hurt my feelings" cold shoulder?
that's what we try to do.
just give each other a break, and show grace! choose not to take offense.
it allows us to breathe--not living in fear of doing something wrong or being criticized for it. and it makes us want to show grace and love right back at 'em.
oh, and one more thing too:
the other thing that makes moments in marriage golden,
it's the best way to get out of a silly fight. the best way to bring someone out of a sour mood. and the best way to lighten the load and remember you are best friends first.
and, it's fun.
so just be darn right silly sometimes. if only for the sake of laughter.
so there it is: grace and laughter.
year one, it's been real. easily the best of my life. here's to year two!
(love you so much adam.)
ps, can't wait to watch our awesome wedding video tonight to celebrate! jon schaaf photography is amazing!
pps, adam and me on our anniversary getaway. more on this soon!